A lot of times when the word "priorities" gets used, it focuses on business. That seems to be where a lot of attention gets placed in terms of having a path to get things accomplished. People will create action plans and strategies to implement steps. There will be ongoing reviews of progress to make sure those priorities are being met. It's all done to help provide a measurable path to success.
Less often that word comes up for people in their personal lives. It's as if life is expected to sort of hum along. and that we can throw our attention to things as they crop up.
What if you were to give the same evaluation of priorities to your life? How would things change? And where would your main relationship (husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend) fit in?
It is frequently heard that on people's deathbeds they express the wish that they had spent more time with family than on building their careers. So why didn't they? Could it be because on the job they got pulled into a line of thinking about priorities and goals that remained something on which they could focus?
I recommend right now taking a look at where you prioritize your relationship. Ask yourself precisely how important it is to you. Realize all the elements that come with it, be it a sense of security, having someone attentive to your needs, a feeling of belonging, physical touch, enjoyment and so on. Your relationship should not be some amorphous concept but a very real and practical part of your life.
To help prioritize it, realize its value to you. You can look at that in several ways. The emotional value of course, but there is also a practical value -- what would it cost you if that relationship ceased to exist? What would a divorce cost if your relationship fades over the years? How much more do you have in assets because you have been able to maintain a home together? What's the cost of eating out as opposed to having meals prepared at home? You see, when you think of your relationship being valuable, it can come down to some tangible thoughts and not simply emotional romantic things that may fade when compared to making money at your career.
Taking this crucial eye to your life priorities and seeing where it stacks up can make or break your relationship. It will help you make decisions. After all, the whole point of priorities is a recognition that you can't be working on everything all the time. That goes for priorities in a workplace and at home. Getting clear on how you prioritize your relationship can make a difference in the actions you take, whether it's whether to stay up and watch TV after your spouse has gone to sleep, how much focus to give to having date nights, how and where to vacation and so on.
It even goes to the priority you give to chivalry. Is she worth those extra moments it takes to walk around the car and open her door? To come up to the front door to pick her up rather than text her from the car? To share more of an umbrella to keep her dry even if you get a bit wet in the process?
Get that priority clear in your head, and then do what it takes to meet it.