It's the time of year when all sorts of people are giving all sorts of advice for making New Year's resolutions. The most common ones seem to be about losing weight and getting in shape. Others have to do with being better organized, whether about things or about finances.
How about a resolution for chivalry?
It's a great time to resolve to be more chivalrous in the coming year! That can work for anyone at any range of the "chivalry spectrum'" (meaning whether you're already being chivalrous often or whether it would be a brand new concept for you).
If you're not already doing chivalry as a matter of course, how about a resolution to do just one gesture consistently? Perhaps choose to offer to open doors for women, including opening her car door before you come around to the other side (and opening hers again when you arrive at your destination). Another place to start may be offering to help her on with her coat.
If you're already doing some chivalrous gestures, how about a resolution to expand your repertoire? When I started practicing, it wasn't as if I had all the possibilities nailed right off the bat. I got good at opening doors and pulling out chairs, but it was a while later that I got into the habit of standing at the table when a woman rises. There may be gestures that would add more style and distinctiveness to what you do. Why not resolve to add them this year?
It could even be to expand your gestures to more people. Perhaps you're used to being chivalrous just to your girlfriend or wife. Why not make this the year of offering chivalry to more women in public situations? Perhaps resolve to be aware of offering your seat to a woman when she's standing on a crowded train or bus.
If you want some ideas on ways you can be more chivalrous, drop me an email and we can schedule a chat to see what I may suggest for you!
So how about it: "I resolve to be more chivalrous in 2015." Easier than you may think, and the results may be bigger than you realize.
© 2014, John Rasiej, Bring Chivalry Back
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John Rasiej is a Chivalry and Relationship Expert who founded Bring Chivalry Back™ for the purpose of enhancing the quality and enjoyment of relationships by men and women. He rediscovered the value of chivalry several years ago and has been practicing it both in his marriage of 24 years as well as when he's been among groups made up largely of women. Chivalry and similar gestures resulted in a more satisfying marital relationship and life, and also helped him stand out to many women in those group. He now shares the value of chivalry with more men and couples so they too can have happier results. You can follow him and get a special report how to deepen relationships and attract a woman's admiration at BringChivalryBack.com. You can follow him on twitter at @YesToChivalry.