If you allow yourself to become more aware of chivalry, you'll start noticing more and more opportunities to put it on display. The good news is that it offers men a low cost way to get noticed and admired.
Think about it... some men will dip deep into their bank accounts (or their credit lines) to spring for a fancy car, trendy clothes or expensive watch... largely in an effort to get noticed. It's a never-ending challenge as they have to keep spending more money to stay ahead of everyone else who is doing the same things.
Now there's nothing wrong with a beautiful car or great clothes and any man would want to look trig, but an astute guy will realize that how he behaves gets him noticed. In today's world, chivalry is still so infrequent that it catches the eyes of others powerfully when it happens. Social media is filled with posts and tweets from women who see it happening or receive it from a man.
It's not that the sole or even main purpose of offering chivalry is simply to get noticed. That would be disingenuous, and sooner or later people would see through it. But there's also nothing wrong with admitting that like many of the altruistic things we do as humans, some benefits ascribe to the doer. So bask in the opportunity for the best aspects of your character to create the image you want.
If you are looking to attract more women into your circle, you could take some of the money you'd spend on that extra-fancy car and put it into yourself. Take chivalry lessons, learn proper etiquette, take a class on stage presence for making presentations... those things will cost less upfront and pay off much longer.
That will have a long-lasting effect that will outlive the car you buy and the latest trendy clothes. And if you still want to enhance how you stand out in addition to your great character by also driving a better car or having a more eye-catching watch, more power to you. Just don't make those the sole ways you look to stand out.
© 2015, John Rasiej, Bring Chivalry Back
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John Rasiej is a Chivalry and Relationship Expert who founded Bring Chivalry Back™ for the purpose of enhancing the quality and enjoyment of relationships by men and women. He rediscovered the value of chivalry several years ago and has been practicing it both in his marriage of 24 years as well as when he's been among groups made up largely of women. Chivalry and similar gestures resulted in a more satisfying marital relationship and life, and also helped him stand out to many women in those group. He now shares the value of chivalry with more men and couples so they too can have happier results. You can follow him and get a special report how to deepen relationships and attract a woman's admiration at BringChivalryBack.com. You can follow him on twitter at @YesToChivalry.